Start with the hard conversation waiting for you: write privately, let softbond help you slow down and shape the words, then choose what to share. Private drafts stay private; in a shared Repair Session, only approved messages reach your partner. This English page is for context; the v1 app is Hebrew-first.
does not ask you to swallow anger or make things prettier than they are. Start with the real version, then turn a reactive moment into a message with more clarity, boundary, and a request someone can hear.
Pause. Refine. Then choose whether to send. softbond does not decide.
The structure is the same: personal feeling · specific moment · a request someone can answer. Less blame, more chance of being heard.
does.Alpha version — free tester signup. You can start alone and invite your partner when it makes sense.
The same fight keeps coming back. A sentence comes out crooked. One person shuts down and the other is left guessing. Most of the time it is not one big crisis — it is a stack of small moments that create distance or closeness.
"His parents said something hurtful. He stayed quiet. I felt like he agreed with them."
""I wanted to talk about money. It became a fight about who left the glass in the kitchen."
""We came home and the silence got too heavy. Neither of us knew how to open the door again."
""I said 'I'm fine.' I meant 'I'm hurt,' and I could not find the words."
"It is not that there is no love.
Sometimes there is just no pause before the next words arrive.
When a conversation feels too hard to start together, a private conversation with gives you room to think out loud: clarify what you mean, prepare, apologize, set a boundary, or rehearse a possible response. What stays private does not move on.
conversationChoose what you need now: clarify what you want to say, prepare, apologize, set a boundary, rehearse a possible response, or process a conversation that already happened.
Write what came out, then give the words one more moment. Ask for softer, shorter, more direct, or less blaming, and copy the final version to your own messaging app.
Before saying it, see how the other side might respond. It is not a prediction: softbond is not impersonating your partner and does not know what they really think.
After a Repair Session, you can save a Living Agreement both partners approved. Revisit it, update it when needed, and reopen the conversation when life changes.
At the end of a Repair Session, you can save a Living Agreement: a small point of agreement both partners approved, with room to update or reopen it when life changes. Not a contract against you. Not ammunition. A marker for the next conversation.
A tool deserves trust only when it is honest about its edges. is a communication tool: not therapy, not diagnosis, not a judge of who is right, not a way to monitor your partner, and not a promise that the other person will understand, agree, forgive, or change.
In situations involving mental distress, depression, anxiety, or trauma, softbond can only help with wording and conversation. It does not replace a professional.
softbond does not take sides, analyze your partner, or build theories about either of you. No relationship score; no "you are avoidant, she is anxious".
No deadlines, no streaks, no "we missed you, come back!" Your pace stays yours, even if a month passes between conversations.
Two independent accounts. Each person signs up separately, and each person can leave alone. Inviting someone to softbond is not an invitation to a trial.
softbond offers wording and structure. It does not know what the other person thinks or feels, and it cannot promise your partner will understand, agree, forgive, or change. The decision is always yours.
For acute distress, suicidality, or violence, turn to professional human help. softbond is not an emergency service.
Private conversations stay private from your partner until you choose to share. When you ask for help, the relevant text may be processed through the OpenAI API under the applicable terms. The Trust Center explains these boundaries in plain language.
What you write in a private softbond conversation stays on your side. Your partner does not see drafts, change requests, or wording you did not approve. In a Repair Session, only an explicitly approved message is sent.
output is checkedBefore wording reaches you, it passes an automatic filter: no psychological diagnosis, no speaking for your partner, no promises. If something fails the check, the system rewrites it, or stops and says it is not appropriate.
One Hebrew consent document at the start explains what softbond does, where the data goes, how OpenAI processes text, and how to leave. No surprise dialogs in the middle of a conversation.
A safety layer may detect signs of acute distress, suicidality, or violence inside a single message. If that happens, the app stops the wording flow and reminds you that softbond is not an emergency tool or a substitute for human help. No automatic calls, no reports. This layer cannot guarantee detection of every risk situation, and we do not try to measure risk at the relationship level.
Settings -> "My Data" shows what is stored, which actions happened and when, and what can be deleted. Export in 30 seconds, account deletion within 30 days, no questions.
Messages and drafts are stored and transmitted encrypted, with a couple key for shared conversations and a personal key for each user. Data is protected according to strict security standards.
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We are looking for testers to help shape the product. The alpha is free, no commitment. You can start alone and invite your partner when it makes sense. The v1 app itself is Hebrew-first for Israeli couples.
softbond is a communication tool. It is not therapy, not an emergency service, and not a judge.
No spam. One email with a signup link.
"softbond does not promise the conversation will be easy. It gives you a moment to breathe before you respond."